Why we do what we do

We survive in order to live.

We came to this world without a perpetual reason. We are a product of two beings who decided to procreate. Whether, it was planned or not, our reason depends on the limit of that situational existence.

If so, then, our being is dependent of our choosing. We can define who we are and what we want. Simply by our affirmation, we uniquely identify our “state of living” – our choice on how to live life.

Equivocally, we go through the trouble on how to live life. Our family teaches us the norms.  Some of our kin are quick to pass judgement on how we should live our lives. Religions command to follow their tenets. Sects and cults arise because denominations cannot suffice the vast individualistic understanding. Some our experts and teachers impose lessons. And our police and political leaders have mandates to impose laws. It seems no freedom at all. However, in the end, we choose our bearing. There is no right and wrong on this world. It is all about what is humanly good and evil.

Volition is the most powerful tool endowed to us. Whatever situation limits it, the fact, we decide on our discourse… It is the best thing that happened since our ancestors became conscious.

The fact our decisions do not go away even at incarceration. The ability to choose and reflect never fleet. Even at our deathbeds, we can premeditate where to be laid.

Though some of us have not consciously decided on anything, our being are implied to choose – with or without awareness.

So, the purpose of this exercise is to the fundamentally argue our bearings to why. We choose our aspiration. We choose our own purpose. Even if it is to inflict pain, our lives are bound by that. We choose our own end.

By such, we are bound to reflect. Given such recourse, how do we make and fully grasp our own purpose?

We live so as to decide.



Mistakes..Missed Takes..

Success is our ability to collect and sift through millions of mistakes to find the best outcome.

Our lives have been a culmination of decisions, actions and outcomes. Events we go through defines our experience. The more we encounter in life – sure development comes our way. This may or may not be the case, we need to reflect on this.

Now, our capability to be successful comes in different forms. It may not fit a single mould. There is a million recipes to success. It falls on us to find what works.

Popular to culture, most of us sing hymns of praises to the people and technology which made it. This is without due regard to the pains and pangs of getting there.

Out of the millions of successes examined, one concept is commonly dropped – if not briefly mentioned in most interviews and documentaries. We will have to examine this idea both in broad strokes and granularity.

The idea is “Mistakes“.

By definition, mistake is an error or fault. Whether it intentional or unintentional, we scrutinize it in very bad and biased way. Our culture trained us to conclude something bad came out of the situation.

The merit of error lies within the presumptions and assumptions of the individual or group concluding it. Mistakes happen when something perceived was missed.

Therefore, its essence underpins our criticality. In layman’s, how we react tells others if the product had blunders and to what degree.

Some of us will argue, fallacies are objective enough to merit such correction if not derision. Hmm.. Look at it this way, the heliocentric model was one of our ancestor’s biggest misconceptions. This is aside from mixing lead and mercury in their cough syrups.

This is not how we should label or treat these things. As part of our evolution and knowledge, there are information we do not know at the time and are probably withheld.

How about we rename those inaccuracies to what they really are – “gap in knowledge”?

This notion might be too much for us to handle. Besides, our brains are well-equipped to remember a word with its simple concept rather than a concept in its entirety. For our sake and to make this simple, we should change our attitude towards mistakes. Failures are a big part of who we are and how we came to be. Without them, our lives will be simple chunks of experiences without lessons and realizations.

To add, our refinement tackles the quantity and quality of fails.

Quantity is finding the best avenues to develop from flaws. It will be in our interest to seek the best partner, establishment and organization who is willing to accept us for the numerous mistakes we will be making.

Quality defines the depth of introspection as an individual or group. Gaps in knowledge is a temporary state to which we drill on the underlying cause. It is all up to us to find that bitter-sweet state of mind. Whether we choose to be ignorant or drill on emotions and annals of situation, it is all up to us. Like what we discussed earlier, it is our conclusion.

Mistakes or gaps in knowledge will be part of us – being human. There is no way we can run away from them. Our society is fond of implying beyond its supposed meaning – being a gap. Nevertheless, we take this opportunity to reflect – if we do not make them – do we want to wallow on regrets and missed takes?


Having our Flow

Our lives should be a quest of efficiency. Removing personal baggages, improving and self-awareness precedes fortune-seeking. Contrary to belief, our values are reflections of being in our utmost and forbearing. 

We woo people to notice us. Our lives have been the epitome of our achievements. We love to show what we have, do and eat. Social media are influencing us to behave like this. Nabbing the latest and the greatest gadgets, going on luxurious trips and aspiring the highest positions to brag to our friends. If this is our aim, to show and tell people what we have and how great we are – this defeats our purpose of living.

In the great expanse of our persona, there is a section left untapped to most of us. This area has been neglected because of our hedonistic predilections. We opt to do what is easy instead of what is befitting in the long run. Aside from our worldly tendencies, our proneness for excuses impedes our capability to create a flow.

How important is creating our flow?

This is the same with water flowing in a stream. Our lives are big systems of pipes and reservoir that allow experiences and memories to flow.

Whether it is learning a new skill or letting go of bad memories, knowing and mastering our flow defines the outcome.

Therefore, flow is our amalgamation of attitude and aptitude. It clearly defines our propensity to the situation – allowing or hindering certain things from unravelling. It is attributable to character – whether we are or allow smooth flowing.

Often times, it is neglected because of the amount of effort needed to have it. It entails tasks that take a lifetime to master.

Given the long period acquire the trait, required qualities can be tricky to cultivate.

Self-awareness takes a huge chunk of our consciousness. It promotes the art of self question to examine the figments of our character. It is the inward drill to our tendencies.

Most of us misconceive the awareness without duly acting on ourselves. We acknowledge our mishaps but we do not examine and have the inner dialogue. The very essence of “self” is addressing what we are aware of.

Acknowledging our mistakes. Not all of us will take the accountability for our action even our inaction. Most of us will pass the buck and blame someone because it is convenient.

This destroys flow. There is some level of culpability in our watch – even though we have nothing to do with prior outcome. It requires a strong personality to swallow this pill but having a stake increases our vigour to remedy the cause. Acknowledging we have some part to the setback gives us a sense of responsibility to reverse its ripples.

Taking things at face value. We have a strong sense to question everything. However, not everything will have immediate answers. Some questions may be harder to answer. At this point, we need to focus our energy on things that matter.

We have limited time in this world. Getting bogged on certain things is prohibited from having a flow. It is a burden we will have to embrace and let go.

Most of the things mentioned will encompass the deepest reflections we can muster. Having a flow has huge benefits. However, at the end of everything, it all toils to how we live our lives. We are the stewards of our destiny.



At the Heart of Amelioration

“Sometimes, development is enough reason for us to keep pushing.”

A friend of mine told me, “Andrew, I can pick a certain intensity in you. You never settle.”

He is probably right. There is something in me that is waiting to be unleashed. It is trickling through the gaps of what I see as education.

May it be a learnt skill, a grammar correction or a social pretence I gathered – they all point to the same thing over and over again – which is development.

Development takes so many forms. The moment we pick them, we should scrutinise forces that lie beneath. It is in each acknowledgement of growth we set our character.

Say for instance, understanding office dynamics, we learn who are the major players besides our manager. We find who can influence the boss and the people we can rely on. We take that understanding and apply it to the next employment.

Yet, it takes awareness to keep amelioration. The moment we keep that hunger and sensitivity for learning, it becomes a part of us.

That relentless pursuit of improvement requires a level of openness. It is the calibre that  challenges even our own values and beliefs.

Therefore, it takes so much effort to have a great persona of growth. It may not be worth it for some of us. However, at least, we surely made our lives worthwhile.


Our Fundamental Flaw

Some of us who will veer outside the realms of logic.

In the case of the infamous Bonnie and Clyde, during the notorious outbreak of their crime spree, people of the time flock them. For the gruesome crimes they committed, people were drawn to the glamour portrayed by the media. Women dressed up like Bonnie. Men referred Clyde as their macho hero. They were allured by their glitz, they forgot their victims.

The Kardashian Family is another example. For their TV shows to air primetime, it shows the mundanity of some of us daydreaming.

Trump is another prime instance. Republicans whether hardline or progressive do not question the president’s decision. From declaring climate change as a hoax, distrusting the government’s intelligence agencies and making enemies out of long-time allies; they went with all his irrationalities.

Why are these happening?

This is who we are – built and designed to be emotional than logical. Illogicality fills us in our depths. There is no escape from this universal essence.

This explains why we put more emphasis on luxury than utility. We go for ego, pride and biases. The reason we also pay attention to beauty than brains. Some of our executives and managers will ego trip than make sensible decisions. Our past hedonistic rulers burned countries to the ground.

We cannot fight this tendency. Hence, there are ways to minimize its impact.

For one, it takes effort and persistence to be aware of all these. Reflection will be our friend.

An effective reflection prods and lays the understanding to our tendencies. It takes swallowing the bitter pill and admitting we are wrong. Part of reflection is questioning our actions and beliefs.

Of course, this takes a lifetime of practice. Saints and most of our respected religious leaders enact total self awareness. At the sign of mistake, they reflect and make revisions.

For us, ordinary citizens, it takes strides and motivations to go over our character. These flaws are meshed in us by culture and norms. It is tricky to go against society. Hence, it is so easy to go with the flow.

At the end of the day, we ought to live life to the fullest. By acknowledging our flaws and finding ways to improve will give us the best chance of being happy.

Does Ignorance Last?

Sucked into that situation, we feel that helplessness.

I, a couple of times heckled, found my character attacked when committing mistakes. Though the insecurities of the characters are also culpable for my failure, the view is always marred by the emotions at hand.

It is always away from the situation that we get a clearer picture. Take it as an instance, we cannot hold everything personal.

We have to do this – hold to our esteem. Sanity clings when we know who we are.

Keep moving forward! It becomes our nature when we continue learning! Aside from this, people who doubt should be doubting themselves!

Unfazed, Happy and Greatest

I am done with all my emotional inefficiencies. For all my setbacks, it takes me hours to days to get away from all the dreary feeling. I continue to feel most of them but found a better way to move forward.

My intents are always the same, walk towards greatness. However, that path is rigged with many heartaches and hardships. There is no easy way. It is a process.

I relived those moments close to slipping into depression with all the frustrations and anxiety for not making it. “Making it” is the highest standard I have set for myself – being ultra-rich. In the end, all of it for what?

This qualm surfaced – if I do search for greatness, I will encounter pain. If I live with modesty – granted my character, I will regret it. There has to be a middle ground to this.

I looked within and found – “Whatever, be happy and great”. I hold my happiness. I am successful. I forge my path to greatness.

Therefore, I am living that mantra. Unfazed by naivety, I will continue to trudge to my greatness. Happy, I learn from my mistakes and move forward to my utmost.